Author: Counselling Blog

One of the hardest things you will ever have to do is grieve the loss of a person who is still alive.

Roughly 20% of the population struggle with high sensitivity. Typical traits include the following:

1. As students, they work differently from other people. They often pick up on subtleties and may think deeply about a subject before sharing in a discussion or contributing in a classroom setting. (This does not necessarily mean they don’t understand the material, or are too shy to speak in public. It has more to do with the way the person processes information.)

2. They tend to be highly conscientious in their work. They notice and pay attention to details, and they think things through very carefully. Also, often being highly sensitive is equated with higher levels of intelligence, being highly intuitive and having a vivid imagination. Highly sensitive individuals work and learn best in quiet and calm environments.

3. Highly sensitive students and employees generally underperform when they are being evaluated. They are highly conscious of being watched, and this inhibits their ability to function at their peak.

4. Although some individuals who are born with this trait may seem to be more introverted by nature, being introverted and highly sensitive do not always go together. Instead, environmental factors have a greater influence on how the individual feels and reacts.

5. People with high sensitivity are more sensitive to both negative and positive experiences. Thus, they are more affected by rough treatment, pain, heartaches and insensitivity from others … but also seem to benefit more from being treated with kindness, care and thoughtfulness.

6. Other common characteristics of the highly sensitive person being easily over-stimulated (hence the need for quiet and calm), being more emotionally reactive than others, and having higher levels of empathy.

The ones who notice the storms in your eyes, the silence in your voice and the heaviness in your heart are the ones you need to let in.

I want to inspire people. I want people to look at me and say “because of you I didn’t give up.”

Maybe home is nothing but two arms holding you tight when you’re at your worst.

She was beautiful, but not like those girls in the magazines. She was beautiful, for the way she thought. She was beautiful, for the sparkle in her eyes when she talked about something she loved. She was beautiful, for her ability to make other people smile, even if she was sad. No, she wasn’t beautiful for something as temporary as her looks. She was beautiful, deep down to her soul.

1. Choose to develop an attitude of gratitude

2. Choose to be patient with things don’t go as planned

3. Remind yourself that change takes time

4. Treat yourself well

5. Be kind to others

6. Laugh often

7. Enjoy the moment.

She had this way of always finding the good and believing in everything despite all that she had seen. And that is what I loved the most – the pure magic of her undying hope.

1. Make up your mind to do things differently. Make the decision to turn this thing around. You have all the power you need, and you can make this work for you.

2. Decide to only work on one habit at a time. That focuses your mind, and your will to succeed.

3. Design a plan that is attractive and rewarding. If the pain exceeds the gain then you may not persevere. There must be something that’s enticing to make it seem worthwhile.

4. Nuke your negative thinking. You know that things will be tough and you’ll be tempted to give up – but plan in advance so you can push through trying times. For example, imagine how you’ll feel when you are living differently, and you’ve broken with the habit, and are basking in success.

5. Know the worst times of day, and the times you struggle most. Then come up with a plan so you cope better with those. But … make sure your ideas work, and are attractive enough, as it’s hard to keep on going when we’re low on energy.

6. Keep it simple. A harsh or complex plan can be too hard to implement. But making simple changes feels much more doable. (Also, remind yourself “it’s easy – and it’s not that hard to do.”)

7. Notice your successes. And reward yourself with that. Your effort’s paying off – and you are closer to your goal.

You’ll just keep crashing if you don’t take your eyes off the rear view mirror.