Author: Counselling Blog

Getting over it doesn’t mean forgetting it. It just means reducing the pain to a tolerable level, a level that doesn’t destroy you.

I lost myself trying to please everyone else. Now I’m losing everyone while I’m finding myself.

People need to be encouraged. People need to be reminded of how wonderful they are. People need to be believed in – told that they are brave and smart and capable of accomplishing all the dreams they dream, and more. Remind each other of this.

1. Listen to what you want to do, not what others want you to do.

2. Listen to who you want to be, not who others want you to be.

3. Stop hiding your true thoughts and feelings; start being true to who you really are.

4. Stop criticizing and putting yourself down; start appreciating and loving who you are.

5. Stop saying yes when you’d much rather say no.

6. Start dreaming more, and trying different things.

7. Forget about the past and enjoy what’s happening now.

8. Appreciate the good things and the beauty, and life’s joys.

It’s OK to not be OK. Just don’t give up.

1. You matter. Your thoughts, feelings, hopes, dreams, wishes, longings, fears, anxieties – they all matter.

2. There is no-one else like you. You can play a unique role in the world and in other peoples’ lives. The world will be a poorer place without your own very special contribution.

3. You were made to be loved, wanted and treasured. It’s not just a matter of accepting or putting with who you are. You were meant to be valued and cherished by others.

4. You were made to live a full and happy life.

5. You were made to have purpose and to go after your dreams – to feel that you achieve and your life is meaningful.

6. Your life is a gift – it is given as you matter. You’re a beautiful person. Be all that you can be.

In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain the old pain.

Be forgiving. Be understanding. But don’t be a fool.

You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that made you wiser, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything you still grow. Be proud of this.

Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to. It’s not for them.