Category: advice

1. Things never, ever go according to plan

2. You’ll always meet with unexpected snags and obstacles

3. Not everyone will like you, or want to be your friend

4. We all lose motivation and want to ditch our dreams

5. Success is transitory; the happiness will pass

6. We all get disappointed and let down by our friends

7. Attitude is everything – we choose how to react

8. There’s always something good, if we will only look for it

9. There are those who “play it forward”, and who’re helpful, warm and kind

10. And life is full of chances, new beginnings and fresh starts.

Life might be better if you try the following:

1. Let go of the past

2. Do stuff (instead of just thinking or talking about it)

3. Don’t let people bother you

4. Make the effort to stay in touch with others (especially with those who mean a lot to you)

5. Allow yourself to sometimes fail

6. Accept that things going wrong from time to time

7. Decide not to take things personally

8. Think about how you want to be remembered

9. Choose to be silly, to have fun, and to laugh

10. Value your friends, and always treat them well

1. Let people invalidate or minimize how you feel. – If you feel something, you feel it and it’s real to you. No one else lives in your body, or sees life through your eyes. No one else has lived through your exact experiences. And so, no one else has the right to dictate or judge how you feel.

2. Regret every mistake you’ve ever made. – If you regret some of the decisions you’ve made in the past, stop being so hard on yourself. At that time, you did your best with the knowledge and experience you had. If you were to make these decisions with the wisdom you have now, you would choose differently. So give yourself a break.

3. Take your loved ones for granted. – Someday there will be someone you miss dearly. So be sure to appreciate every moment you get to spend with the people who matter to you.

4. Let your ego get the best of you. – Sometimes we choose to be wrong, not because we really are wrong, but because we value our relationship more than our pride.

5. Get involved in every petty argument that comes your way. – Being strong doesn’t mean you have to respond to rude remarks. Don’t retort by throwing insults back at them. Don’t bring yourself down to their level. That’s what they want. Keep your dignity.

6. Join the negativity committee. – The extent of your happiness depends on the quality of your thoughts. So be positive. Some of the best days of your life haven’t happened yet.

7. Rush love. – A good relationship is when two people accept each other’s past, support each other’s present, and love each other enough to encourage each other’s future. So don’t rush love. Find a partner who encourages you to grow, who won’t cling to you, who will let you go out into the world, and trust that you will come back. This is what true love is all about, and it’s always worth the wait.

8. Hold on to those who don’t want to stay. – If someone doesn’t show you the same love that you show them, and acts as if you are unimportant most of the time, this may be a big clue as to the fact that you don’t need them in your life either. The only people you truly need in your life are those who respect you and want you to be in theirs.

9. Ignore every bit of constructive criticism you receive. – The worst lies are the ones we tell ourselves. A true friend will always speak the truth, even if it hurts.

10. Give up on yourself. – Maneuvering through difficult times is a lot like driving through dense fog. You can’t always see where you’re going, you feel a little lost and you want to turn back. But breathe, focus on the road ahead, and keep moving forward.

Source: http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/10/17/10-ways-to-break-your-own-heart/ (Abridged)

When you don’t know what to do, my best advice is to do nothing until clarity comes.

1. Don’t pay too much attention to the way you feel. Feelings change throughout the day and are unreliable. Don’t let them rule your life, or interfere with your goals.

2. Decide not to worry as it tends to make things worse. If you focus on your worries it will drain your energy – and often what we’re dreading doesn’t happen anyway.

3. Cut the internal commentary. Stop telling yourself that things are going to fall apart, or your efforts won’t succeed, or you won’t be popular. Keep trying, moving forwards, and getting on with life.

4. Stop being self-critical. You need to be your own cheerleader and your biggest fan in life. Note progress, perseverance, attitude and inner strength. Be affirming, kind, believing and coach towards success.

5. Stop feeling guilty. Feeling guilty changes nothing. You are going to make mistakes. Accept you aren’t perfect – then get up and try again.

6. Stop worrying about what others think of you. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter what they think. Choose your own goals for your life – you’re not accountable to them.

7. Don’t worry about set backs or changes to your plans. Plans always need adjusting and things always go wrong – but that doesn’t mean ‘it’s over’ or you’ll never reach your goals. Expect to make some changes – just be adaptable.

1. You can’t change the past.

2. Other peoples’ opinions do not define reality.

3. We each have a different journey and path.

4. Overthinking leads to torment and depression.

5. Happiness is an inside job.

6. Change your thinking, change your life.

7. Nothing beats compassion and kindness.

1. Be wise in your friendships, and in choosing whom you’ll trust.

2. Love others deeply, and enjoy relationships.

3. Plan for the future – and work hard to succeed.

4. Practise being mindful and being present in ‘the now’.

5. Choose to be happy – despite life’s challenges.

6. Remember that life changes, and most storms pass with time.

7. You only live life once, so take risks, and seize the day.

1. Stop comparing yourself to others

2. Stop demanding and expecting perfection (from yourself and other people)

3. Practice kindness and understanding

4. Be your own best friend when you make a mistake

5. Look for things that you like about yourself and choose to take pleasure, and find joy, in them

6. Believe that you deserve to experience good things

7. Make the decision to enjoy your life, and to love what you are doing, and to believe in yourself.

1. Things never go according to plan

2. You’ll always meet with unexpected obstacles

3. Not everyone will like you, or want to be your friend

4. We all lose motivation and want to ditch our dreams

5. Success is transitory; the happiness will pass

6. We all get disappointed and let down by our friends

7. Attitude is everything; we choose how to react

8. There’s always something good, if we will only look for it

9. There are those who “play it forward”, and who’re helpful, warm and kind

10. Life is full of chances, new beginnings and fresh starts.

1. What option would I choose if I knew I would definitely succeed?

2. What would I do if I didn’t feel scared?

3. Who can I talk to who’s been in my shoes?

4. What are the likely outcomes of each choice and decision?

5. What is the worst thing that could happen; what is the best thing that could happen?

6. Am I making this decision for myself, or am I choosing to please other people?