You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently. You have to accept that you can’t change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally recognize that truth then you will understand the true meaning of forgiveness of yourself and others. From this point you will finally be free.
Don’t ruin a good today by thinking about a bad yesterday. Let it go.
Breathe. It’s only a bad day, not a bad life.
It’s never too late to start over. If you weren’t happy with yesterday try something different today. Don’t stay stuck.
The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole life fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.
Have patience with all things but first with yourself. Never confuse your mistakes with your value as a human being. You are perfectly valuable, creative, worthwhile person simply because you exist.
1. Seeing success as being determined by external factors. (So if I fail it’s circumstances or someone else’s fault.) This takes away my sense of power and keeps me stuck in failure and helplessness.
2. Personal blind spots. Sometimes we keep failing but we’re blind to the fact that there’s something we’re doing that is causing us to fail. That could be related to our communication style, our attitudes, lack of knowledge and ability, pursuing something that doesn’t suit our gifts and talents, and so on.
3. Self sabotage. Sometimes we don’t feel we deserve to succeed so unconsciously we do something that causes us to fail. This includes meditating on self-limiting thoughts (Eg, “I could never …; I don’t deserve …”).
4. Feeling ambivalent about the goals you’ve set. We often set a goal that is someone else’s goal so we’re not really sure if it’s what we want ourselves. That affects our motivation, and our will to succeed.
5. Fear of change. All successes bring some change – and that can feel quite threatening. And we’re often comfortable with our life as it is now – and so we wonder if success will really make us happier.
6. Pressure from others who don’t want you to succeed. It’s very common for our peers to be threatened by success, and we know they’ll be sarcastic or mean if we succeed. Hence, we don’t try our hardest as we recognise the cost will be social isolation, or rejection by our friends.
I’ve found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances, be more active, show up more often.
1. Remind yourself that you still have options (even if they aren’t all that appealing at the moment).
2. Focus on those few things that are going well (even if you have to scratch your head and really, really think!)
3. Decide what you can do … and then just take the next small step. And then, when you’ve done that, take another tiny step.
4. Admit how you are feelings; admit your greatest fears o fight, and persevere.
5. Let go of all the oughts, and the musts and the shoulds. Demands and expectations will only wear you down.
6. Ensure your life is balanced – and make sure you make the time to relax, have some fun, to chill out, and have a laugh.
Just because the past didn’t turn out like you wanted it to, doesn’t mean your future can’t be better than you ever imagined.