1. Remind yourself that worrying doesn’t stop things happening. Things will happen – or not happen –anyway.
2. Recognise that “What ifs” don’t usually help with problem solving. It’s better to use logic, and brain storm for solutions. Take control of your emotions by using rational thinking.
3. Motivate yourself by something other than worrying. Take a break and do something fun, and then go back to your work again. That positive approach will reap more benefits.
4. Face your fears – and do the things that you worry about. The thought is often much worse than the actual thing you fear.
5. Ask yourself “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” Then, “What are the chances that it will happen? Then “Will you survive it, if it happens, in the end?” Usually, that helps to move us from an extreme and irrational way of thinking to a more realistic, and reasonable way if thinking.
6. Teach yourself a range of relaxation strategies – and then concentrate on them instead of on your different fears. Or, adopt a mindful approach – and keep your focus on “right now”.
1. Avoid people who’re always trying to get them to go to social events.
2. Say they’re sick, or have too much homework, to get out of going to social events.
. Worry constantly about being judged by other people.
4. Feel bad about preferring being alone.
5. Think others criticize and talk about them.
6. Hide in the bathroom to get away from the crowd.
7. Always take a friend to a social event.
I feel like I’m waiting for something that isn’t going to happen.
Courage doesn’t mean you don’t get afraid. Courage means you don’t let fear stop you.
When you’re scared but you still do it anyway, that’s brave.
No matter the situation, never let your emotions overpower your intelligence.
You have the power within you to rise above whatever is currently seeking to bring you down.
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.
1. Trying to please, and be acceptable, to others
2. The fear of making a mistake
3. The fear of change
4. A fear of the future
5. Guilt or shame that’s tied to your past
6. Beating yourself up or putting yourself down
8. Living by your feelings
9. The desire to get even with others
10. The tendency to procrastinate.
My whole life I’ve been telling myself, ‘don’t be afraid’. And it is only now that I’m realizing how stupid that is. Don’t be afraid. Like saying, ‘don’t move out of the way when someone tries to punch you’ or ‘don’t flinch at the heat of fire’ or ‘don’t blink’. Don’t be human. I’m afraid and you’re afraid and we’re all always going to be afraid, because that’s the point. What I should be telling myself is ‘be afraid, but do it anyway’. Live anyway.