Sometimes you just have to be brave. You have to be strong. Sometimes you just can’t give in to weak thoughts. You have to beat down those devils that get inside your head and try to make you panic. You struggle along, putting one foot a little bit ahead of the other.
1. Remind yourself that feel scared is very normal! Peace and bravery exist alongside fear. So don’t be afraid of your feelings of fear.
2. Make the decision to act despite your feelings. Don’t allow them to control you, or to hold you back in life.
3. Accept your limitations; they are areas of growth. You’ll get there step by step. So be patient while you change.
4. Set aside the opinions and the judgments of others. Go after what you want, and who you want to be in life.
5. Learn everything you can about a scary situation. That will help you to prepare, and develop skills you’ll need.
6. Remind yourself of the all times you’ve stepped out in the past, and have taken a real risk – and that paid off in the end. Allow that to inspire you, and to reinforce your courage.
7. It’s ok to ask for support and help from others. We all need a boost and encouragement at times.
Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
One day you’ll look back and realize you worried too much about things that didn’t matter.
1. Other peoples’ expectations of you. At the end of the day, it’s your life not their life – so just be yourself and set,and go for, your own goals.
2. What other people say and do. It’s not up to us to control other people, or to change how they act, or to make their decisions.
3. Expecting perfection. It’s unrealistic to aim for perfection. You’ll just be disappointed and discouraged all the time.
4. Getting it wrong. We all make mistakes in our journey through this life. That’s simply part of learning, and being normal and human.
6. Fitting in. Although social skills matter, and it’s good to think of others, you need to be yourself – a special, unique individual.
7. Being right. This is highly over-rated and can cause a lot of stress. If you’re confident and real you don’t need to prove you’re right!
8. Life being out of control. At the end of the day, there’s not much we can control – except our own reactions and our attitudes to problems. So change what you can – and then relax and enjoy life.
Courage doesn’t mean you don’t get afraid. It means you don’t let that fear stop you.
1. Breathe slowly and deeply: Shallow chest breathing makes your heart beat faster, and tenses your muscles, so you feel more stressed. In contrast, breathing slowly and deeply helps you feel much more relaxed.
2. Visualize yourself being calm and relaxed: Imagine all your stress being washed away; or try and visualize yourself in a peaceful scene such as lying on the beach or in a garden, with a book.
3. Smile: Research shows that when we force ourselves to smile it actually improves the way we feel.
4. Write your feelings down on paper: Writing gives us a way to express how we feel, and it helps to release our pent-up emotions.
5. Count to 10: Give yourself some distance and time before responding. If you react right away you might regret it later on.
6. Go for a walk: Endorphins are released by any form of exercise. These improve our mood and help us keep things more in balance.
7. Soak in a hot bath: There’s nothing like relaxing in a hot bubble bath to reduce your stress levels and improve the way you feel.
8. Turn up the music: We all have favourite music that distracts us from our problems, and listening to that music can help us feel less stressed.
Don’t use your energy to worry. Use your energy to believe.