Category: friends

Good friends help you to find important things when you have lost them. Your smile, your hope, and your courage.

1. They treat you as if you are not important.

2. They prioritise other people and things over you.

3. They show more interest in another person.

4. They push you away when you try to get close

5. They deliberately hurt you – and don’t seem to care.

6. They complicate life in unnecessary ways.

7. They leave you feeling miserable, unwanted and upset.

The ones who notice the storms in your eyes, the silence in your voice and the heaviness in your heart are the ones you need to let in.

People who you thought were friends will treat you poorly, they will show their true colours by behaving badly. You must walk away with your head held high, knowing that you did your best.

It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.

Some people can’t be in your life because they don’t have the power to help you improve it. That doesn’t mean you don’t wish them well, it just means that you are on Chapter ten of your life, when they are on Chapter five.

1. Be understanding and supportive when your friend is having a hard time.

2. Be interested and excited when something good has happened to your friend.

3. Don’t be a gossip. Think the best of people; not the worst.

4. Remember that a secret … is a secret … is a secret. Don’t pass on what’s been shared in confidence.

5. Be willing to help friends out.

6. Don’t criticise anything about your friend – his/ her clothes, choices, decisions, boyfriends, girl friends etc

7. Show up at events that you friend has invited you to – birthdays, celebratory meals etc.

8. Encourage your friend to dream and be the best person they can be (then affirm, encourage and believe in them as they seek to become that person.)

I’m slowly learning that some people aren’t good for me, no matter how much I love them.

Someone who takes the time to listen when we are at our lowest is rare and should be valued.

I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships, forced interactions or unnecessary conversations.