There comes a day when you realize turning the page is the best feeling in the world because you realize there was so much more to the book than the page you were stuck on.
Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?
1. Self hatred and self blame
2. Not being able to let go of the past.
3. Not being able to forgive yourself.
4. Not being able to cherish who you are.
5. Needing other to validate you.
6. Letting other people define who you are.
7. Trying to be perfect, and to please everyone.
1. You’re alive.
2. You have a roof over your head, food to eat and clothes to wear.
3. You have access to basic education, and are able to read and write.
4. You have choices, and the freedom to make your own decisions (about what to eat, what to wear, where to live, the kind of career you would like to pursue etc.)
5. You are not being persecuted for your beliefs, and you live in a country that respects your human rights.
6. You have faced and overcome some huge obstacles.
7. You have experienced the warmth and the love of friends.
8. There are people in your life who miss you, and look forward to seeing you again.
9. You can enjoy gorgeous sunrises and sunsets.
1o. You have access to the internet!
Life is series of thousands of little miracles. Notice them.
1. See each day as a fresh start and a new beginning.
2. Don’t be a copy of anybody else – enjoy discovering and being your true self.
3. Be proactive, take control and look for opportunities. You’ve only got one life so make sure you stay in control.
4. Don’t focus on the obstacles or things you cannot change. Just ask yourself “What next? or else “What can I do instead?”
5. Appreciate your limits and then set clear boundaries. You need to care for yourself to be the best “you” you can be.
6. Decide on your values and what matters most to you. Then live in a way that’s consistent with those values.
7. Don’t put life on hold as the months turn into years … and there’s always the chance that some important doors will close.
8. Set goals for yourself – then plan the steps to take you there.
9. Learn from other people that you value as role models – but ignore the naysayers and the hypercritical.
10. Let go of the past, and old hurts and grievances. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, or to see a counsellor.
Closing your eyes isn’t going to change anything. Nothing’s going to disappear just because you can’t see what’s going on. In fact, things will even be worse the next time you open your eyes. That’s the kind of world we live in. Keep your eyes wide open. Only a coward closes his eyes. Closing your eyes and plugging up your ears won’t make time stand still.
1. Give your energy level a boost. It’s hard to be friendly, and to focus on others, if you’re feeling really tired and would rather be in bed. To keep going, grab some coffee or a bite to eat, or go outside for a few minutes, and get some cool, fresh air.
2. Have some tactics at the ready if you don’t know the people – or if you have to be with people you would rather avoid. For example, if you don’t like the people, ask a friend to go with you … and have a great excuse for leaving once you’ve done the minimum.
3. Plan ahead to avoid conflict. Aim to stay in control of your reactions and emotions – and resist the pressure to take part in arguments.
4. Control your contribution. If you’re quiet and introverted then value you who you are. Don’t expect yourself to be a party animal. Show respect for yourself by taking time out if you need to, and only talk to people that you want to be around.
5. See it as a chance to practices a few social skills. Take the pressure off yourself by practising your social skills. For example, ask a few open questions, and keep the focus on the speaker. Try and come across as friendly through your use of body language – like making good eye contact and smiling while you talk.
If I’ve learned one lesson from all that’s happened to me, it’s that there’s no such thing as the biggest mistake of your existence. There’s no such thing as ruining your life. Life’s a pretty resilient thing, it turns out.