Category: mentalillness

It’s OK to not be OK. Just don’t give up.

1. You matter. Your thoughts, feelings, hopes, dreams, wishes, longings, fears, anxieties – they all matter.

2. There is no-one else like you. You can play a unique role in the world and in other peoples’ lives. The world will be a poorer place without your own very special contribution.

3. You were made to be loved, wanted and treasured. It’s not just a matter of accepting or putting with who you are. You were meant to be valued and cherished by others.

4. You were made to live a full and happy life.

5. You were made to have purpose and to go after your dreams – to feel that you achieve and your life is meaningful.

6. Your life is a gift – it is given as you matter. You’re a beautiful person. Be all that you can be.

In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain the old pain.

Be forgiving. Be understanding. But don’t be a fool.

You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that made you wiser, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything you still grow. Be proud of this.

Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to. It’s not for them.

Your healing is about you. It doesn’t need a stamp of approval. Don’t worry about how long it takes or how ugly it might seem. It is about you, and your wellbeing.

You must tell yourself, ‘No matter how hard it is, or how hard it gets, I’m going to make it.

Depression can often be difficult to fight as it usually drains you of your energy. And though you can’t overcome it by willpower alone, you still have some control, no matter how you feel. The suggestions below can help you with this.

1. Keep doing the activities you previously enjoyed (even if you don’t enjoy them as much when you’re depressed).

2. Try to build some exercise into your day as it releases endorphins – the body’s feel good hormones.

3. Know what your triggers and your risk factors are. For example, loneliness, stress, disappointment and pain are common triggers and risk factors for depression.

4. Stay in touch with your friends. Often those who are depressed start to isolate themselves – but that leads to loneliness – which can make depression worse.

5. Try to maintain some kind of routine, especially when it comes to getting up, and going to bed. Taking naps in the daytime can cause insomnia and leave you feeling drained, so you have no energy.

6. Try to get a handle on how much you ruminate. Take note of your thought patterns; don’t dwell on negatives. Instead, challenge faulty thinking so it’s much less pessimistic … and try to be thankful … and to look for positives.

7. Make sure you do things that make you feel more relaxed. Often people who’re depressed feel uptight and agitated. So it’s important that you find things that can help you to relax.

8. Resist the temptation to self-medicate (especially through alcohol or substance abuse.) That will lead to greater problem, and will make you feel much worse.

9. Seek out support. Talk to a good friend, or someone that you trust. You’ll usually find there’s someone who genuinely cares.

10. Talk to your doctor. It may be medication is the answer for you so don’t be afraid to try to get professional help.

One day she remembered that it wasn’t her job to make everyone happy.