1. First, and most important, see yourself as a valuable, likeable and worthwhile person – someone who is worth knowing and loving. If you find that hard, then you are likely believing lies about yourself. (and that may be something you want to explore, and work through with, a counsellor.)
2. Recognise that your thoughts, ideas, views and beliefs are as important as anybody else’s. You are your own person. You are not just a clone of somebody else. What you think is worth hearing – and you don’t have to apologise or change your views in order to please, or be acceptable to, others.
3. Stay away from people who are trying to change you, or who want you to think and act as they do. Don’t allow yourself and your personality to be swamped or dominated by others.
4. Surround with people who encourage you to be yourself, awho ccept you as you are, and who bring out the best in you.
5. Resist the urge to emulate or copy people you admire. At the end of the day each of us is unique. The world is a richer place by you expressing who you are in your own way.
6. Don’t compare yourself with others. We each have different experiences, and are evolving in our own way, at our own pace. There’s no one formula or recipe for becoming or being. Trust your intuition, and follow your own path.
Sometimes quiet people really do have a lot to say … They’re just being careful about who they open up to.
1. I need to affirm and to validate myself as it’s hard to accept validation from others if, deep down inside, I don’t believe it’s true.
2. My time is as valuable as anybody else’s so I need to prioritise what I need to do.
3. I can’t give to others, and help to build them up, if I’m not taking care of my own self first.
4. I need to remember that I’m worthy of love, of success, opportunities, and knowing happiness.
5. My opinions are as valuable as anybody else’s. It’s up to me to decide and to choose my own beliefs.
6. I don’t have to explain why I do what I do (unless you’re the police or have some authority.)
7. My past does not define me – I’m free to change and grow, to try on different “me”s, and to set inspiring goals.
I like people who have a sense of individuality. I love expression and anything awkward and imperfect, because that’s natural and that’s real.
Never look at another person’s life and then think that you are not enough. You are more than enough for the right people.
Someone with a great personality:
1. Is warm and friendly towards to others.
2. Is open and real
3. Knows their own strengths and weaknesses – and neither boasts nor puts themselves down.
4. Looks for the good in every situation, and is generally positive and optimistic.
5. Doesn’t gossip or pass on others’ secrets
6. Doesn’t gloat when things go wrong for others.
7. Is secure and has a healthy self–esteem; is not self-centred and narcissistic.
8. Is not highly critical or argumentative.
9. Is not possessive and jealous in relationships.
10. Makes time for the people they care about.
The sensitive suffer more; but they love more, and dream more.
I always feel like I’m struggling to become someone else. Like I’m trying to find a new place, grab hold of a new life, a new personality. I guess it’s part of growing up; it’s also an attempt to reinvent myself.
You’re a different human being to everybody you meet.
One day she discovered that she was fierce and strong and full of fire – and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.