Category: rejection

We’re afraid others will see our flaws, weaknesses and insecurities. We’re afraid if others really knew us, they would reject us. We feel like fakes and frauds in a world that seems to have it all together.

The world tells you many lies about who you are, and you simply have to be realistic enough to remind yourself of this. Every time you feel hurt, offended, or rejected, you have to dare to say to yourself: ‘These feelings, strong as they may be, are not telling me the truth about myself.

That’s what careless words do. They make people love you a little less.

It hurts knowing you did your best and it still isn’t good enough.

Rejection doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough. It means the other person didn’t recognise what you have to offer.

I wish there was some kind of button that I could push and it would allow me to unlove you.

1. Expect some people to reject you. It’s a fact of life that we won’t like everyone – and there will be people who don’t like us. It often has to do with different personalities rather than something being wrong with you.

2. Learn how to brush off rejections and put downs – at the end what matters is how you handle it. If you still act as if you are comfortable with “you” then others will respect you for your healthy self-esteem.

3. It’s often about them and not about you so try not to take rejection personally. Perhaps they are jealous or envious of you; or perhaps they’re just taking their feelings out on you.

4. People rarely see us in absolute terms. There are some things they will like and others they’ll dislike. It may be they hate one particular trait – but we’re a mix of many things – so don’t worry about that.

5. Don’t over-think what other people think or say. Distract yourself, and think of something else instead. They’re not worth the effort or the wasted energy. Just get on with your life and enjoy being you.

When people walk away from you, let them go. You shouldn’t have to talk them into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, or coming to see you … For if they really cared about you in the first place, they would not be going anywhere.

1. Rejection is simply the reaction or opinion of another person.

2. Rejection is powerless without your co-operation.

3. Rejection shows you others’ true colours, exposes all enemies, and closes every wrong door.

4. Rejection reveals those incapable of distinguishing your true worth.

5. Rejection is a guide, leading you away from deadened relationships while directing you towards healthy, positive relationships.

6. Rejection reveals who is intimidated by your potential.

7. Rejection reveals who or what doesn’t belong in your future.

8. Rejection is motivation to go in a new direction.

Tracey Mitchell (abridged)

Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.