Category: self care

The roots of loneliness are very deep … They find their food in the suspicion that there is no-one who cares and offers love without conditions.

Lonely is not being alone. It’s the feeling that no-one cares.

1. Expect some people to reject you. It’s a fact of life that we won’t like everyone – and there will be people who don’t like us. It often has to do with different personalities rather than something being wrong with you.

2. Learn how to brush off rejections and put downs – at the end what matters is how you handle it. If you still act as if you are comfortable with “you” then others will respect you for your healthy self-esteem.

3. It’s often about them and not about you so try not to take rejection personally. Perhaps they are jealous or envious of you; or perhaps they’re just taking their feelings out on you.

4. People rarely see us in absolute terms. There are some things they will like and others they’ll dislike. It may be they hate one particular trait – but we’re a mix of many things – so don’t worry about that.

5. Don’t over-think what other people think or say. Distract yourself, and think of something else instead. They’re not worth the effort or the wasted energy. Just get on with your life and enjoy being you.

Whatever you do, don’t run back to what broke you.

Today I forgive myself. Not just once. Again, and again, and again. As many times as it takes to find peace.

1. It increases your anxiety, your worry, and your dread.

2. It makes you feel confused, so that it’s really hard to think.

3. It can blind you to “the obvious”, and what is best for you.

4. It can keep you feeling stuck so you wait too long to act.

5. It can interfere with hearing what your heart says you should do.

6. Thus, it can limit your success as you’re afraid to take that step!

1. Be aware of and respect your limits.

2. Don’t let others rule your life and calendar.

3. Take time out, and embrace solitude.

4. Listen to your heart, and do what’s best for you.

5. Accept that you’re not perfect – for we all mess up at times.

6. Make time for fun.

7. Treat yourself as valuable.

Just because your past has been damaged doesn’t mean your future has to be worthless.

1. If you don’t want to do it …

2. If you don’t like the people …

3. If you’d rather relax …

4. If you’re already overscheduled…

5. If you don’t have the time …

6. If it doesn’t fit your values …

7. If you feel forced to say “yes” …

Let it go. Something beautiful wants to grow in its place.