Category: self care

7 Ways to Really Love the People in your Life

1. Tell them how great they are and how much you appreciate them.

2. Be genuine and real in your relationships. Don’t pretend and wear a mask but share your true, authentic self.

3. Note, however, that being genuine doesn’t mean always dumping your garbage on those around you. Be respectful of their needs and feelings too – and recognise that we influence and affect others’ moods. That is, we can choose to either brighten or pollute the atmosphere.

4. Be a great listener. We feel loved and valued when others really listen to us (and demonstrate they’re listening through their nonverbal cues).

5. Don’t try to fix, change and make them into different people. Instead, allow them the freedom to be themselves, as well.

6. Recognise that we don’t have to agree with, or respect, others’ choices in order to have a good relationship with them. A lot of the time, we can simply agree to disagree.

7. Don’t allow yourself to fall into the role of victim or martyr … or a co-dependent lover, family member or spouse.

What to Write in your Journal to Move on

1. A description of what happened.

2. How it left you feeling.

3. Who was there and what they said and did.

4. What you wish had happened instead.

5. The reasons why you find it hard to let go.

6. Steps you could take to start to move on.

I learned the hard way that I cannot always co…

I learned the hard way that I cannot always count on others to respect my feelings – even if I respect theirs. Being a good person doesn’t guarantee that others will be good people. You only have control over yourself and how you choose to be as a person. As for others, you can only choose to accept them or walk away.

We all eat lies when our hearts are hungry.

We all eat lies when our hearts are hungry.

Tips for Making Life Work

1. Focus on doing one thing at a time. Tackling multiple activities may seem more efficient, but giving one task your complete attention is actually more productive in the end. It also cuts down on your levels of stress.

2. Slow down and enjoy the journey. Whatever you’re doing is important right now. Don’t wish that it was over – and try and make it fun.

3. Stop being such a perfectionist. If you’re a pilot or a surgeon then standards have their place … but for the rest of life “don’t be so hard on yourself”. Don’t stress out over details and impressing everyone.

4. Learn to delegate to others: take the pressure off yourself. Perhaps other people won’t do the job as well. But that’s how people grow – so why not give them that chance – and spend your own time doing things that you’d prefer to do.

5. Don’t always be waiting for the other shoe to drop. Lots of people spend their lives terrified of what might happen – and most of the time things work out to be just fine. Thus, they’re worrying for nothing when they could be having fun!

6. Focus on what you have, not what you wish you had. All of us have things we can be grateful for. Not everything is awful –and life’s not always bad. And if you change your focus to what you’re thankful for, you’ll find you feel much happier, and worry a lot less.

7. If things go wrong, just shrug your shoulders and smile. Remind yourself that life goes on – so don’t wreak your life wishing things were different or regretting what you’ve done. Also, things might work out next time. Tomorrow’s a new day.

Having a soft heart in a cruel world is courag…

Having a soft heart in a cruel world is courage, not weakness.

I understood myself only after I destroyed mys…

I understood myself only after I destroyed myself. And only in the process of fixing myself did I know who I really was.

7 Little Phrases that can Change your Life

1. “I love you”

2. “I’ll be here if you need me”

3. “Me too”

4. “I’m sorry”

5. “It was my fault”

6. “Forget it. It’s no big deal”

7. “No.”

Don’t wander away from yourself to get close t…

Don’t wander away from yourself to get close to someone else.

Don’t wander away from yourself to get close t…

Don’t wander away from yourself to get close to someone else.