Category: self improvement

Learn to be alone, and to like it. There’s not…

Learn to be alone, and to like it. There’s nothing more freeing and empowering than learning to like your own company.

7 Phrases that can Change your Life

1. “I love you”

2. “I’ll be here if you need me”

3. “Me too”

4. “I’m sorry”

5. “It was my fault”

6. “Forget it. It’s no big deal”

7. “No.”

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

1. Is this a person who always puts you down? A friend is someone who accepts you as you are – and allows you to be different, and to think for yourself, and to make your own decisions – without an explanation. However, if a person is demeaning or always puts you down, criticises your opinions, or the way you dress or look, then that’s someone to avoid as they’re a toxic friend.

2. Do they gossip about you? A friend is someone you can totally trust. You can share your deepest secrets, and say what’s on your mind – and they won’t tell a person or betray your trust. However, if you always have to watch what you say around a friend, as they’re likely to gossip or let a secret slip, then it’s likely that this person is a toxic friend.

3. Do they constantly mock and make fun of you? A bit of gentle ribbing shows affection between friends. But if they’re always making fun of you, or highlighting your faults, or attacking you in public, then they’re not a genuine friend.

4. How do you feel after being with your friend? Think about your answers to the following:

– Do you feel defensive when you spend time with them?

– Do you feel hurt or upset after spending time with them?

– Do you feel as if you always have to justify yourself instead of being natural around your friend?

– Do you enjoy their company or do you feel ambivalent?

– Do they undermine your confidence and self-esteem?

– Do you feel attacked and used after spending time with them?

– Does the friendship feel unbalanced and require a lot of work?

– Is it more a competition than a genuine friendship?

Note: If you recognize the signs of a toxic friend, then it’s time to move on and find a different friend. Being with this person will wreak your happiness.

A healthy relationship is where two independen…

A healthy relationship is where two independent people just make a deal that they will help the other person be the best version of themselves.

Despite how open, peaceful, and loving you att…

Despite how open, peaceful, and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.

6 Questions to ask when you’re making a tough …

1. What option would I choose if I knew I would definitely succeed?

2. What would I do if I didn’t feel scared?

3. Who can I talk to who’s been in my shoes?

4. What are the likely outcomes of each choice and decision?

5. What is the worst thing that could happen; what is the best thing that could happen?

6. Am I making this decision for myself, or am I choosing to please other people?

If you want to be more confident …

1. Don’t compare yourself to other people.

2. Don’t ruminate on what others do and say.

3. Learn to be patient, and to just enjoy the journey.

4. Expect to meet with problems – and know that these will pass.

5. Remember that you’re strong, and can cope in hard times.

6. Appreciate your qualities and personality.

If you know someone who’s depressed, please re…

If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed but it is one of the kindest noblest and best things you will ever do.

How to Get Over Regrets

1. You can’t change what happened as yesterday is gone – but you can make some choices so the future turns out better.

2. We all have regrets – it is part of being human. There’s no-one who is perfect, or who does things perfectly.

3. See it as a life lesson, and something you can learn from. Good can come from your regrets if you will let them change your ways.

4. See yourself as a new person … As a person you believe in …. As someone you are proud of, and as someone who you like.

5. Practise self-compassion and give yourself a break. You deserve to be loved … it doesn’t matter what you’ve done.

6. That was then – and this it now …. Let it go and look ahead … For you can’t change your future if you’re always looking back.

One of the best lessons you can master in life…

One of the best lessons you can master in life is to master how to remain calm.