Category: selfcare

She distanced herself to save herself.

She distanced herself to save herself.

I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone….

I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.

What is Emotional Abuse?

An emotionally abusive person may dismiss your feelings and needs, expect you to perform humiliating or unpleasant tasks, manipulate you into feeling guilty for trivial things, belittle your outside support system or blame you for unfortunate circumstances in his or her life. Jealousy, possessiveness and mistrust characterize an emotionally abusive person. In summary, emotional abuse includes the following:

1. Acting as if a person has no value and worth; acting in ways that communicate that the person’s thoughts feelings and beliefs are stupid, don’t matter or should be ignored.

2. Calling the person names; putting them down; mocking, ridiculing, insulting or humiliating them, especially in public.

3. Controlling through fear and intimidation; coercing and terrorizing them; forcing them to witness violence or callousness; threatening to physically harm them, others they love, their animals or possessions; stalking them; threatening abandonment.

4. Isolating them from others, especially their friends and family; physically confining them; telling them how they should think, act, dress, what decisions they can make, who they can see and what they can do (limiting their freedom); controlling their financial affairs.

5. Using that person for your own advantage or gain; exploiting their rights; enticing or forcing another to behave in illegal ways (for example, selling drugs).

6. Stonewalling and ignoring another’s attempt to relate to and interact with them; deliberately emotionally detaching from a person in order to hurt them or “teach them a lesson”; refusing to communicate affection and warmth, or to meet their emotional and psychological needs.

Part of surviving is being able to move on.

Part of surviving is being able to move on.

Depression Checklist

1. Shower, brush your teeth and put on clean clothes

2. Eat regularly; include some fruit and veg in your diet

3. Get out of the house at some point in the day

4. Try to get a little exercise

5. Listen to some comforting or meaningful music

6. Talk to at least one other person

7. Think about 3 things that could make life worth living

8. Write down 3 things you are grateful for.

The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable …

The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself.

Most people need love and acceptance more than…

Most people need love and acceptance more than they need advice.

In my opinion, the best thing you can do is to…

In my opinion, the best thing you can do is to find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you … That’s the kind of person that’s worth sticking with.

When you learn to love yourself you will stop …

When you learn to love yourself you will stop putting your self esteem in the hands of others.

7 Secret for Maintaining your Motivation

1. Grasp that it’s YOUR life, and no-one else’s life.

2. Decide to “live on purpose”.

3. Recognise that achievement has a price tag attached to it – and decide you’ll pay that price.

4. Work on constantly maintaining your focus.

5. Chose a skill or a field and become competent, or an expert, in that area.

6. Find other people who will hold you to your goals – and will believe in, and encourage you, to strive to reach your dreams.

7. Consciously notice the progress you are making, and remind yourself “it’s worth it” as you’re further down the road.