Category: selfimprovement

You can only grow if you’re willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.

I am in the process of becoming a better version of myself.

1. The same themes and patterns (which are usually self-defeating) keep reappearing, or repeating themselves.

2. Unresolved issues and heatache from your past, are stopping you from living and enjoying your life now. These are triggered more frequently and easily today.

3. You have trouble coping with powerful emotions – like overwhelming anger or excessive crying.

4. You feel anxious, restless and dissatisfied, and feel as if something needs to change in your life.

5. You feel dazed or shocked by something that has happened, and can’t pick up the pieces and “be normal” again.

6. You keep pushing down your feelings, and denying your emotions, but they keep resurfacing – and just won’t go away.

7. You make superficial changes as you’re scared of digging deeper. – but that doesn’t work for long as the real problem’s still there.

8. You can’t let go of something that meant a lot to you – a disappointment, or a failure, or a past relationship.

At the end of the day you can endure much more than you think you can.

You’re imperfect, and you’re wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.

1. Keep things in perspective: Often we catastrophise or we over-react when the issue or offense is insignificant. Here, remind yourself, “it’s minor, and not worth the fight.”

2. Visualise yourself coping: Take a few deep breaths and let your feelings settle. Then, in a calm, low voice respond in a way that maintains your self-respect.

3. Be aware of your triggers: If we know what those are then we can regain control, and can practice how to cope when our feelings have been stirred.

4. Create a calm environment: Stay one step ahead by preparing yourself for inevitable setbacks and infuriating people.

5. Distract yourself: When you feel the pressure building, think of something that’s amusing, or choose to do something that will help to change your mood.

Always defend your right to heal at your own pace. You are taking your time. You are allowed to take your time.

1. Not living in the moment. Always wishing you were somewhere else, doing something different with other people.

2. Blaming all your problems on your past. Although the past affects us, it need not define us. We can choose, decide and act – and take control of our lives. Don’t let your past determine who you become.

3. Running away from problems. It’s pointless to bury your head in the sand and pretend that things are fine when you’re dealing with a problem. Face reality, take action, and work to turn things round.

4. Being ungrateful. Being thankful sets you free in your heart and mind. It inspires all that’s good and it oils relationships. But an ungrateful person will wear other poeple down. It destroys your spirit, and it saps your energy.

5. Being angry and bitter. Refusing to forgive and bearing grudges against others will slowly poison our personality. It’s much better to release them and to focus, instead, on living a happy and fulfilling life.

6. Letting your expectations rule your life. Life rarely goes smoothly and according to our plan – and people disappoint us and always let us down. Accepting this is normal takes some tension out of life.

7. Disrespecting yourself and others. Every single person deserves to be respected. And every single person is fighting their own battle. So focus on being kind and encouraging.

8. Neglecting important relationship. A relationship that’s built on unconditional love – where a person accepts us for who and what we are – is truly a gift and is worth fighting for. Don’t take it for granted – recognise that it’s a gift.

9. Loving people who are bad for us. Not every person will build into your life. Be aware of those who’ll use you, or who want to bring you down, or who want to hurt you, or destroy your confidence.

10. Never taking risks. If you always play it safe, you will end up going nowhere. You must be willing to take risks or you will miss so much in life.

Love yourself enough to take the actions required for your happiness … enough to cut yourself loose from the drama-filled past… enough to set a high standard for relationships… enough to feed your mind and body in a healthy manner… enough to forgive yourself… enough to move on.

Long after the mind forgets the details, the heart remembers the feelings.